Saturday, October 08, 2011

October Wedding

Oh, what a purr-fect day for a wedding....sunny, breezy, leaf-strewn, and Indian Summer-y.  The Great Spirit is blessing all brides and grooms who are starting their lives together on this their wedding day.

The ceremony for one special couple begins at 2 o'clock, followed by a reception and dinner.  How I wish we could wrap up all the lessons we've learned together through the years of our marriage and give it to them as our gift!  I remember when we got married, we didn't have a clue what we were in for.  At 21, marriage looked like a soap opera, and we all know what soap operas are like.

Marriage is a give-and-take deal, with a mix of hammers and sugar cookies thrown in to keep everybody awake.  Both the guy and the gal are guaranteed of sad and difficult days while trying to save their ship from sinking.  We women are profoundly different than men, and both genders spend years struggling to figure the other one out, with absolutely not one ounce of success. 

Reaching our age and our stage, we look back with deep sighs and pats on the back for having successfully crossed all those bridges and climbed the many hills together.  There's a surprisingly sweet element to marriage that we're just now discovering for the first time in 44 years.  We've grown to be "best buds."  We rely on the other one more all the time.  Each of us has our strengths, and those strengths help fill the gaps for the other. We're finally finding out why men and women are so different.

If a couple wants to see their 50th wedding anniversary, the groom must always respect his bride, and the bride must always respect her groom.  Never allow the degrading and verbal bashing to start, because that's the first sign that the wine is turning to vinegar.

Eskimo Love Song

You are my husband, you are my wife
My feet shall run because of you
My feet dance because of you
My heart shall beat because of you
My mind thinks because of you
And I shall love, because of you.